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Your brain decides your life Dear haniwww, Sorry for not being here for long (a week? not sure). I promised I would routinely write here, but I guess I just need to come to this blog when I really have no one to talk to, while the good news is, my relationship with my husband is getting better (yeay!) and my mind were occupied by many other things beside complaining about life. This time, I'll still be talking about the Dale Carnegie's book (How To Win Friends & Influence People), about how basic the principles this book contains, but that is one of the strongest reasons why everybody should read this book tho. If I tell my husband about a principle that I just learned from it, I guess he will say "oh sure, that's called syukur in Islam, or be grateful, like all people should do". I do also know that we have to be always grateful, but the way this book deliver the message is more compelling to me, and this is the approach: Imagine two persons sta...

Dear haniwww, It's already late at night and I just woke up instead. My sleeping schedule is such a mess again. There was time when I feel like I was living a very great healthy life and I was happy for that. By that time, I made my theory, that is "healthy life is started by healthy sleep. When your sleeping schedule is a mess, healthy life is a myth". And I believe that. In recent days I actually have tried to improve my sleeping schedule. I did what I could, including anything. But last nite was an exception. Last nite finally I talked to my husband (again) after so long. We fought (again) over text until morning (Indonesian time) so I could sleep just when the clock show fajr time. Oh, screw me. It ruined every thing. I couldn't do my job, I couldn't go to the office, I feel weak, and now, I don't know how to sleep in the proper time again.  I literally achieved nothing today. Hence I feel so useless, I procrastinated so badly, the tasks just st...

Dear haniwww, I'm too tired with my marriage. My husband never change and he's not capable of being a leader in this team. We always fight over the same problem, and nothing ever change. I always ask him to ask other people's perspective, so he can see the case in another point of view. But he never do that. Perhaps he doesn't want to change. Hence, he always think that he's always right. I feel like I have no motive and reason to stay. With this kinda situation, I don't think the future will be better either. I don't know how to talk to him. I don't know how to make him understand. Meanwhile, I'm reading Dale Carnegie's book: How To Win Friends and Influence People. From his writing, I learned that people never blame themselves for anything, no matter how bad what they have done. So I am sure my husband will never ever blame himself too, can't even recognise what is exactly wrong with him. Am I always right? Of course not. I'm...

please make higher education free for everyone Dear haniwww, Yesterday I spent big money for my brother's tuition. It's his first time entering college, after been waiting for around 5 years. Yes, he actually graduated from high school 5 years ago, intended to work to pay his own bills, and yes, he did it, he worked and earned some money, but even until months ago, I asked him whether he already have sufficient money or not for his study, he didn't give any satisfying answer. I know how that feels, and I know that it can go long until he get what he wants. I know that he's confused and has no many options to make. The problem is, he's a man, he cant keep living like that until no time. Our parents are getting older too, and I'm sure they expect the situation can be better. So I took an initiative. I asked my brother to enter college this year. At the first time, he did not even sure what major he should take, beside off course still no clue where he ca...

Ali Abdaal Dear haniwww, I want to make a writing about someone I currently follow, that is Ali Abdaal, a youtuber who is also a doctor in Cambridge. I've been following him not a long time ago. I bumped into his channel when I was looking for apps recommendation for my ipad, and I found him very appealing. Because of his personality, video quality, and how he deliver his thoughts, I watched many of his other videos and I found some insights that very relevant to me, hence I want to share to people things that I learned from him. I want to make a decent post, or something legit, so that I would not feel shame even if Ali recognize me and read my post. But because this is not really the right time, I just rambling here waiting for the right mood to start. At least I highlighted points that I want to make. And while waiting, I do some changes in my life, including making promise to write in this blog every night before I go to sleep. Screw motivation, I need discipline. Wi...

terhempas Dear haniwww, Sebenernya gw ragu gw harus nge-share ini atau nggak, karena ini terkait kekurangan gw dan gw gak tahu pasti kekurangan itu tidak apa-apa untuk diketahui orang (siapa tahu menemukan yang senasib bisa saling sharing), atau kita sebaiknya menutupi kekurangan kita, agar orang tidak tahu titik lemahnya. Tapi yasudah, gw butuh juga cerita dan mendokumentasikan tantangan-tantangan gw dalam hidup. Berawal dari tes masuk perusahaan yang terjadi di waktu yang lalu. Sejak saat itu gw jadi semacam kehilangan arah dalam menentukan hidup ke depan. Secara singkat, waktu itu gw lagi daftar kerja di salah satu perusahaan consulting, yaitu Accen**** (asal muasalnya gw jelaskan terpisah, kenapa gw tiba-tiba pengen ngantor di perusahaan consulting). Selayaknya perusahaan top, mereka punya beberapa fase seleksi. Gw lolos tahap CV, dan lalu diminta mengerjakan tes online psymetrics. Psymetric s ini adalah tes untuk mengukur cognitive traits seseorang, kolaborasi neurosci...