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Simple Principal To Be Grateful


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Dear haniwww,

Sorry for not being here for long (a week? not sure). I promised I would routinely write here, but I guess I just need to come to this blog when I really have no one to talk to, while the good news is, my relationship with my husband is getting better (yeay!) and my mind were occupied by many other things beside complaining about life.

This time, I'll still be talking about the Dale Carnegie's book (How To Win Friends & Influence People), about how basic the principles this book contains, but that is one of the strongest reasons why everybody should read this book tho. If I tell my husband about a principle that I just learned from it, I guess he will say "oh sure, that's called syukur in Islam, or be grateful, like all people should do". I do also know that we have to be always grateful, but the way this book deliver the message is more compelling to me, and this is the approach:

Imagine two persons stay in the same place at exactly the same time. For example, two students who are just accepted by The University of Indonesia in 2019. Their status at this point are the same. But guess what, one of them is so extremely happy because this was his long awaited dream, while another extremely depressed, because he actually wanted to go to Harvard, and nothing compared to that for him. At this time, we can conclude that any condition in this world never has an absolute definition. For example, accepted by top school in the country never automatically means happiness, because no matter what happen, from any external condition, what get through to our selves is filtered and processed by our brain, so how our brain perceives and translates an event is the only thing that matter. Right?

The concept is super clear. Started from there, I think when something happen to me, I'll always try to imagine another person who is also experience the same thing, and this person reacts very positively, and that will make me uncomfortable if I react differently, because I can feel that I have no reason to complain or not being grateful.

Oh, screw my sentences. But you got the point right?

It also proves another theory, that there are people who are just like me, who can accept concept better if it delivered through a book with great writing, much better than if it delivered by someone (whoever that is) through concept-less telling. Oh yeah.. right..

Ok ok. That is it for now. Sorry if my writing today is not well enough. It is 7 AM and I have not sleep yet at all since yesterday. See you later!


 Exactly 07.05 AM,

 while also calling my husband who is not wake up yet and must be late to come to his class

Update:
Now I also have another theory why the concept of being grateful that has been told for years not effective to me: probably because we are taught to compare ourselves with people who are less-fortunate than us, which is something that is not really immersive. We will never really can put ourselves in other people's shoes, that is just not us. While the concept of being grateful that I mentioned above is about comparing ourselves to people who also experience the same thing but can act differently. The approach is different, right? Ah, I like this process of thinking >,< Thank you, my blog. You helped me to think further than usual XD

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